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We all have a family. Even if not all of us are married or have children, many of us have siblings who do have children. We can create relationships with our nieces and nephews to become close to them, and to help our brothers and sisters with family difficulties. The Family: A Proclamation to the World states that "Extended families should lend support when needed. For the most part, people can't choose whether or not to have a relationship with their parents.
They grow up in the same house, they see each other and talk together daily, and they have an ongoing, hopefully, positive relationship. Aunts and uncles have more freedom than parents in choosing to develop a relationship with a niece or nephew, and both must be interested in forming that bond. Aunts and uncles desiring to be close to their nieces and nephews can choose ways to interact with them that will strengthen their relationship 1.
This suggests that you can create the kind of relationship that you want to have with your niece or nephew; there is no one pattern that you must follow. Another factor that distinguishes this relationship from other family ties is that it is less structured; there are many different roles that aunts and uncles can have, and to a certain extent they can choose which roles to cultivate.
Role model. One of the most important roles for aunts and uncles is to be a role model. A role model is someone that influences our behavior just by us observing how they act. Aunts and uncles can influence their nieces and nephews just by what they do, without saying a word. Aunts can also show their nieces an example of what they may want to be. They can give examples of the roles of a career woman, a wife, a mom, and a productive citizen of society.
If an aunt le a different lifestyle than the child's mom, it can give the niece an alternate example of what she wants to do with her life. This can be particularly helpful if these children do not have a positive male figure in their home. It will benefit them to have a trusted adult to guide them rather than looking to their friends and the media. As aunts and uncles do not have the responsibility of parenting, they can also be more of a friend with their nieces and nephews.
An important quality that many nieces and nephews name in their parents' siblings is their ability to have fun. This friendship allows the aunts and nieces or uncles and nephews to be involved in common activities they enjoy, such as sports or shopping. One important distinction between acting more like a parent and acting more like a friend is often reciprocity.
Friends are more likely to give back to their friends with emotional support, advice, or suggestions. Milardo found that if you have this kind of relationship with your niece or nephew, they may be supporting you as you support them. Supplemental parents. One role that aunts and uncles often have that is very important is to act as supplemental parents. Aunts and uncles can be complementary to their siblings by providing additional support, to fill the needs that the parents are unable to take care of themselves.
This can include providing another supportive adult that kids can go to, to do their hair before a school dance, or by helping to drive them to all the places they need to go. Uncles and aunts can also reinforce the ideas that parents are trying to teach, such as the importance of education or being kind to your siblings. Aunts and moms can collaborate on good parenting ideas for the child, and discuss parenting methods. Buffers between parents and children. Aunts and uncles can also act as intergenerational buffers. This means that they can help mediate the relationship between parent and.
Instead of siding with one or the other, uncles and aunts can help each family member to try and see the other's side of the argument. There are also many other roles that you can take on; being a good listener, giving advice, providing unconditional support, or telling your nieces and nephews of their family history.
The nice thing about being an aunt or uncle is that none of these roles are required; you can determine what you want to do. If you don't want to get in the middle of parents and children fighting, don't. If you want to play tennis with your niece, do! You can choose what roles and activities you have time for and are willing to do. Only you can determine what will be good for your relationship. Some of you may not be very emotionally close to your nieces and nephews, particularly if they live far away. It is important to remember that even if you aren't very close to your nieces and nephews, you can still be important to them and be an influence on their life.
Whether you connect with them a lot or a little, you want to make every moment with them strengthen your relationship. Written by Kaitlin M. Miller, Research Assistant, and edited by Stephen F. They grow up in the same house, they see each other and talk together daily, and they have an ongoing, hopefully positive relationship. Aunts and uncles desiring to be close to their nieces and nephews can choose ways to interact with them that will strengthen their relationship.
In India, an aunt who was a nurse inspired two of her nieces to take up nursing, even though it is not a popular career choice in their country. One way that uncles can be a good role model is to show good examples of a masculine role. Unfortunately, some aunts and uncles are not good examples and may have behaviors that parents don't want to be passed down to their children. He still was close to his uncle, but he did not want to follow this behavior. Accordingly, children can learn both from the good and bad that they see.
Mentors to nieces and nephews. Aunts and uncles can also take on the role of mentor. Mexican-American youth, who are quite close to their extended family, rely on aunts and uncles and other extended family members for emotional mentoring, or modeling and teaching correct emotional behavior. Perhaps in certain situations an aunt or uncle could encourage their niece to gently break up with an unwanted boyfriend in a kindly way, instead of simply modeling kind behavior.
Aunts and uncles can mentor by sharing their observations and experiences, which can influence a niece or nephew's behavior. They can also be a sounding board for ideas, and it may be helpful to go to an aunt or uncle to discuss sensitive topics if youth feel too awkward or uncomfortable talking to their parents. It is helpful for aunts and uncles to be an additional supportive adult for nieces and nephews to go to.
Mentors to parents. Aunts and uncles can also be mentors to parents. Parents may want someone to talk to about difficulties they are having with their children. Aunts and uncles can listen to parents' frustrations, share information from what they have observed or know about their niece or nephew, and can act as a confirmation or second opinion in how parents should interact with their.
Aunts and uncles can be complementary to their siblings by providing additional support to fill the needs that the parents are unable to take care of themselves. Surrogate parent. In some families, the aunt or uncle acts as a surrogate parent. This can vary from acting as a second mom by helping to raise the child, giving childcare, or even letting your niece or nephew live with you while they work out problems with their own parents.
If one of the parents is emotionally or physically not in the home, aunts and uncles can step up and help out on a daily basis with the available parent.
This can help add some balance to the home when there is only one parent. This is more beneficial for the child than traditional foster care, but it can be very taxing on the aunt and uncle. There will be some struggles, simply because you are not their birth parent. It is important to distinguish between acting as a surrogate parent and trying to take over the parent's job. It is very critical that you do not overstep your role as aunt or uncle unless absolutely necessary. Your relationships with your nieces and nephews are probably more important than you think, particularly if you spend frequent amounts of time with them.
Two different studies show that the more relationships and frequent contact youth had with extended family members, the less likely they were to be involved in sexual risk-taking, or unsafe sexual practices. Extended families were also an asset for children adjusting to school.
Aunts and uncles can also be an additional resource to families who are struggling. For Mexican youth and Mexican-American immigrants, extended family members represent additional emotional and financial resources that families depend upon. Additionally, African-American youth who have alcoholic parents are better able to cope if they have good relationships with their extended kin.
This relationship can be supportive for aunts and uncles as well. For those who are childless but desire to help those of the next generation known as generativityaunts and uncles can find a way to do this through their nieces and nephews. For those who desire children, having a relationship with their siblings' children can help fill that need to connect with children. By having a relationship with your nieces and nephews when they are children, you are often fostering a lifelong bond, and the relationship becomes more friend-like as the children get older.
What kinds of relationships do you have with your nieces and nephews? Do they live nearby or far away? Do you talk to them frequently or just send a card on their birthdays? Or, do you find it difficult to remember their names sometimes? We can support our extended families, particularly our nieces and nephews, by creating good relationships with them. The kind of relationships we build with our nieces and nephews depends largely on our own efforts, though the relationship itself should be mutual.
If we want to have strong, close relationships with them, what can we do to make this happen? First, a kind perspective of our extended family will help us to do that. We can think of our extended family relationships as an opportunity to love and serve others, or we can see it as a burden to keep in contact with them. It's our choice. Our extended family can be seen as a natural extension of ourselves, or they can be seen as distractions from our own needs and interests". By keeping a positive attitude about your relationship, you can look forward to spending more time together with your nieces and nephews.
As one person said, "Opportunities for involvement in the loving process abound in our lives. They are there not for the asking, but for the doing". The problem isn't how to this, but to take that first step to build a relationship. Second, include them as a part of our lives.
For example, one family invites a nephew and his family over each Saturday during football season to enjoy the game and munchies, to everyone's delight. By including extended family members as part of our family relationships, we are including them in the circle of love in our lives. The best thing that we can do is to love them. When we love our nieces and nephews, we will want to care for them and do what is best for them so that they may be happy.
When we reach out with love to our extended family, we will be filling our lives with what matters most family. Parents are not the only influential adult figures for children, as other extended family members frequently take on some of the parenting actions as well. Elder Robert D. Hales commented, "Many adult members of the extended family do much parenting in their own right.
Grandparents, aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews, cousins, and other family members can have a great impact on the family". Through righteous living, we can live with our immediate and extended family for eternity by being sealed in the temple. The prophet Malachi states that the hearts of the children will be turned to their fathers, and the fathers to the children or there will be a curse upon the earth Malachi This does not only have to refer to direct descendants you can also turn toward your nieces and nephews, and they to you.
By attending the temple, we will feel the love and desire to help all of our extended family. We can share that love with our nieces and nephews so that they are also turned towards those who came before them. The temple is about families. As my wife, Karen, and I have increased our temple service, our love for each other and for our children has increased. And it doesn't stop there.Uncle seeking niece
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